http://www.mediafire.com/?dzznjmzmquo
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---The indomitable human spirit strikes again...bigtime!
Her YouTube - above.
''The BIGGEST LIE: IT'S NOT OKAY TO BE WHO YOU ARE!''
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Monday, April 12, 2010
BE LOVING and ACCEPTING
---An increase will certainly improve your life. As far as I am concerned...there is NOTHING BETTER. Self-Acceptance is the ''ROAD TO HAPPINESS.''Sunday, April 04, 2010
Self-Conscious Guy - 1951
---Here is a film made in 1951 about self-consciousness. I know I have had my share of it, and I assume there are others who may benefit from the film. It is dated...NO DOUBT, but there may be something of value . It lasts a little over 10 minutes.
http://www.archive.org/details/SelfCons1951
Saturday, August 15, 2009
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Wednesday, April 01, 2009
SELF ACCEPTANCE
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---Self-ACCEPTANCE - A ROAD TO HAPPINESS!
This my own video. YouTube Search - MrStrokeGuy
Saturday, April 01, 2006
MY BOOK CALLED -
CONSIDER THESE...
''The IMPORTANCE of Self-Acceptance''
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---Well, I finally had an opportunity to put my ''writings,'' into some sort of book or booklet. This has been a dream of mine, since the 60's. It is NOT that I haven't tried and aborted many attempts. But, for some reason, it just never has come together, as it has now.
---CONSIDER THESE..., contains about 25 entries of my essays and poems. Some of the material is NOT on my blogs. There are a few pictures, also. The whole book is very short - only 46 pages.
---I have been writing all my life. My first BOOK, was, basically, ''The Adventures Of Bob Lund.'' It was 62 pages, and typed by my Cousin Linda T. There was one copy and I think there was a price and all. 60 cents. It wasn't very good, but when we were bored, my friend Hempty would drag it out and read it aloud. I wrote the book at age 8, and was listening at age 26. The loudest laughter may have come from me.
---A strange aside to this is that I had met someone named Bob Lund, who came to see the Bobby Darling Show, quite frequently, back in the late 70's. Bob's girlfriend, at the time, was very interested in reading the book. I remember being on stage at The Blue Max, and her being in the audience, reading in earnest. It seemed as though she thought that she was going to discover something about the real Bob Lund. It would have been funny if she had.
---Back to CONSIDER THESE.... If I meet someone with this name, I, myself, will begin to wonder...and read in earnest. The main focus is around the fact that it really is OKAY to BE YOUR - LOVING - SELF. (Do Yourself A Favor, And Don't Assume You Know What Love Is, Before You Embark On This. Don't Define It Prematurely.) The reason I say this is because, being born missing four fingers on my left-hand, I found myself almost forced into realizing this fact. But, what a great blessing it was, when I finally did.
---I have met many people who are trying to be someone they're not. Most people aren't even aware of this. I know I wasn't. We ALL have what we need inside, but are so busy looking outside, that we don't see this. Stop competing and comparing. Learn what Love, really means, as a fact. Stop focusing on if you feel loved or not. You will stumble across it. Guaranteed. It is in there. Take Care.
---Well, I finally had an opportunity to put my ''writings,'' into some sort of book or booklet. This has been a dream of mine, since the 60's. It is NOT that I haven't tried and aborted many attempts. But, for some reason, it just never has come together, as it has now.
---CONSIDER THESE..., contains about 25 entries of my essays and poems. Some of the material is NOT on my blogs. There are a few pictures, also. The whole book is very short - only 46 pages.
---I have been writing all my life. My first BOOK, was, basically, ''The Adventures Of Bob Lund.'' It was 62 pages, and typed by my Cousin Linda T. There was one copy and I think there was a price and all. 60 cents. It wasn't very good, but when we were bored, my friend Hempty would drag it out and read it aloud. I wrote the book at age 8, and was listening at age 26. The loudest laughter may have come from me.
---A strange aside to this is that I had met someone named Bob Lund, who came to see the Bobby Darling Show, quite frequently, back in the late 70's. Bob's girlfriend, at the time, was very interested in reading the book. I remember being on stage at The Blue Max, and her being in the audience, reading in earnest. It seemed as though she thought that she was going to discover something about the real Bob Lund. It would have been funny if she had.
---Back to CONSIDER THESE.... If I meet someone with this name, I, myself, will begin to wonder...and read in earnest. The main focus is around the fact that it really is OKAY to BE YOUR - LOVING - SELF. (Do Yourself A Favor, And Don't Assume You Know What Love Is, Before You Embark On This. Don't Define It Prematurely.) The reason I say this is because, being born missing four fingers on my left-hand, I found myself almost forced into realizing this fact. But, what a great blessing it was, when I finally did.
---I have met many people who are trying to be someone they're not. Most people aren't even aware of this. I know I wasn't. We ALL have what we need inside, but are so busy looking outside, that we don't see this. Stop competing and comparing. Learn what Love, really means, as a fact. Stop focusing on if you feel loved or not. You will stumble across it. Guaranteed. It is in there. Take Care.
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The BOOK Is Available On Lulu.com.
DUSTIN CARTER - ''It Is ALL Relative''
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No matter what the circumstance...it works better if you ACCEPT - WHAT IS, and go from there. EVERYONE has something that they deal with and learn from.
On BEING YOURSELF
''You Are Probably NOT Spiderman...Or, Anyone Else'''
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---Whenever I say, ''Be Yourself,'' I find myself wondering if people know what I mean by that. I hope that it is understood that I am NOT saying, anything goes and nothing matters. Do anything you feel like doing...etc. That is NOT what it means - To Be Yourself.
---I am saying - find out who you, yourself, are, and be that person. And that it is okay. You usually find who you are, by going within. It begins by telling yourself the truth about how you feel about things, and blossoms or unravels or grows, from there. It is what I mean when I say, ''You watch yourself UNFOLD, from within.''
It is growth in the understanding of what ''LOVE,'' means. Your - TRUE - Self, is LOVE. Be Well.
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---Whenever I say, ''Be Yourself,'' I find myself wondering if people know what I mean by that. I hope that it is understood that I am NOT saying, anything goes and nothing matters. Do anything you feel like doing...etc. That is NOT what it means - To Be Yourself.
---I am saying - find out who you, yourself, are, and be that person. And that it is okay. You usually find who you are, by going within. It begins by telling yourself the truth about how you feel about things, and blossoms or unravels or grows, from there. It is what I mean when I say, ''You watch yourself UNFOLD, from within.''
It is growth in the understanding of what ''LOVE,'' means. Your - TRUE - Self, is LOVE. Be Well.
''EXPOSED'' - RUSS BERMAN
---The song is by a friend of mine, and former co-worker, before my stroke. It says very clearly, how important ACCEPTANCE is.
---''TOUGHNESS is the Ability to face ones own Embarassments.'' The song captures the feeling and gives its stamp-of-approval, to the okayness of experiencing that kind of vulnerability. Good song, Russ.
http://www.russberman.com/secondary/music/exposed.mp3
http://www.russberman.com/secondary/music/exposed.mp3
It Is GOOD To Be...YOURSELF
BE WHO YOU ARE -
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I SAY YES TO DIFFERENCES IN ALL OF US
I SEE THAT WE'RE MADE MUCH THE SAME
BUT IT'S THE DIFFERENCES THAT SPICE IT UP.
SOME PEOPLE ARE SUBTLE,
SOME ARE MORE OVERT
BUT THERE'S SOMETHING IN EVERYBODY
AND THE WAY THEY DEMONSTRATE
WHO THEY ARE
THE ENTIRE PICTURE IS IN ALL OF US
WHO WE ARE IS IMPORTANT --
LIKE IN A JIGSAW PUZZLE,
THE PIECE YOU PLAY IS YOURSELF
BE YOURSELF AND DON'T COMPROMISE
AND YOU'LL FIND OUT SOON ENOUGH
THAT THE ONE YOU SEEK IS YOUR TRUE SELF
SO, HAVE FUN, WHEN IT'S THERE
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I SAY YES TO DIFFERENCES IN ALL OF US
I SEE THAT WE'RE MADE MUCH THE SAME
BUT IT'S THE DIFFERENCES THAT SPICE IT UP.
SOME PEOPLE ARE SUBTLE,
SOME ARE MORE OVERT
BUT THERE'S SOMETHING IN EVERYBODY
AND THE WAY THEY DEMONSTRATE
WHO THEY ARE
THE ENTIRE PICTURE IS IN ALL OF US
WHO WE ARE IS IMPORTANT --
LIKE IN A JIGSAW PUZZLE,
THE PIECE YOU PLAY IS YOURSELF
BE YOURSELF AND DON'T COMPROMISE
AND YOU'LL FIND OUT SOON ENOUGH
THAT THE ONE YOU SEEK IS YOUR TRUE SELF
SO, HAVE FUN, WHEN IT'S THERE
Friday, March 31, 2006
PSYCHOLOGY - ''Adequacy Concerns''
''My Parents, Did Their BEST, With What They Knew.''---I was born with a thumb as my left-hand, missing four fingers. My heart had a hole between the chambers and I had an underdeveloped digestive tract. When the information was conveyed to my parents, especially to my mom,- they blamed themselves for my condition. That was, basically, the monkeywrench, the wedge, between us.
---I did not understand what was wrong, but from a young age, this is the situation I was trying to fix. I was trying to make something right, but did not have a clue as to what ''it'' happened to be. I knew this as being our relationship. As a matter of fact, this was basically my relationship to everything.
---Correcting this took different forms at different times, but a recurring theme is one of doing things right. And doing what was right to do involved ''knowing'' what was right to do, so learning this was my priority. That is why I Know what I Know, or learned what I learned.
---Women?---
---It took the shape of feeling inadequate at first. This I find to be true in my
relationships to women. I do not know if this was apparent from the outside, but I was spending much of my time in pursuits of being approved of, whether they be friends, parents, friends of my parents, relations or practically anyone or anything that had consciousness. There were also the involvement of what I perceived to be dieties. I would use my ''winning'' ways in whatever I deemed as necessary to get my ''need to be liked'' need met. Especially with the female sex.
relationships to women. I do not know if this was apparent from the outside, but I was spending much of my time in pursuits of being approved of, whether they be friends, parents, friends of my parents, relations or practically anyone or anything that had consciousness. There were also the involvement of what I perceived to be dieties. I would use my ''winning'' ways in whatever I deemed as necessary to get my ''need to be liked'' need met. Especially with the female sex.
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---I would not, however, engage them in a sexual encounter as, exactly whatever reasoning I employed, this is NOT my area of expertise. I did much better in the realm of talking the situation into a different direction that I never really had to expose myself as feeling inadequate on this level. I would either help them or confuse the situation so much, that it ruined any mood that was left. Going to sleep was a much better idea, as they were probably close to exhaustion, anyway, at this point. Be Well.
My MOTHER -
My MOTHER
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---I remember the psychiatrist at General Hospital, bringing his students to hear the story. He began with the usual ammenities, how are you doing?...etc. I started to tell him, when he interrupted and asked me to tell his students, the story of myself and my mother.
---Each time I would tell it, it would get a little better. It had a therapeutic value, in the telling, also.
---I told them that I was born with my hand like this. (I lifted up my hand so they all could see it.) I told them I was pretty sick as a baby, and all that. I could see I was getting to what he wanted.
---I told him it must have been very difficult for my parents to hear they have a son who is NOT perfect - 10 fingers, etc. It must have been a very difficult moment. My parents, especially my mother, BLAMED themselves, for the way I was.
---Anytime I had a hard time with anything, their is a very good chance that this fact was involved, somewhere. I want to make this clear, here - I didn't blame anyone, they blamed themselves.
---My mother was very much the perfectionist-type. She had certain standards that she tried to live up to. Failing these herself, she would help others achieve these. This is NOT a good thing.
---With me, I noticed that we had some kind of ''monkeywrench,'' in our relationship. To her credit, she left me alone a lot, not wanting to make it any worse for me. And she truly, didn't know what to do about the situation, anyway. She was taking many of her cues, from what was happening at the time.
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---However, the perfectionist thing was there, and I did notice that my brother, Peter, was the recipient of this. While she wouldn't say anything to me, Peter was wrong in just about everything he did.
---I really believe that she thought she was doing the right thing, pointing out what she considered faults, on almost a continual basis, to him.
---Peter was almost 8 years old when I was born. I'm sure those were eight years of hearing how he was NOT quite, ''good enough,'' pretty much, daily.
---My mother, I think felt so inferior, herself, that being so-fault oriented, and clueless to the harm she was doing, thought that she was ''helping,'' Peter, every time she would correct or ''find fault,'' with his behavior. And then, ''letting him know about it.''
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---The sad thing about it all is that there are a lot of people doing this. It is a form of saving face. The person that you are trying to change, you work on improving. You should, actually, work on why YOU find him so hard to approve of. You should work on why YOU find him unacceptable.
---In the case of Peter and my mother, she was continually trying to perfect him, in hope that one of her comments would be heard and a change would take place, according to how she saw things. Since he reflected her, in someway, she would then benefit by him, ''acting right.'' But, this was all based on the way she ''thought'' things were supposed to be, anyway.
---All she really succeeded in doing was heaping her hang-ups and phobias, on him. Luckily, he was able to get out from some of it, but to this day, I'll bet he carries some internal scars.
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---I would add that you have to learn to accept YOURSELF, before you can REALLY, accept others. Otherwise, you may work on changing others, instead of working on yourself.
---I remember the psychiatrist at General Hospital, bringing his students to hear the story. He began with the usual ammenities, how are you doing?...etc. I started to tell him, when he interrupted and asked me to tell his students, the story of myself and my mother.
---Each time I would tell it, it would get a little better. It had a therapeutic value, in the telling, also.
---I told them that I was born with my hand like this. (I lifted up my hand so they all could see it.) I told them I was pretty sick as a baby, and all that. I could see I was getting to what he wanted.
---I told him it must have been very difficult for my parents to hear they have a son who is NOT perfect - 10 fingers, etc. It must have been a very difficult moment. My parents, especially my mother, BLAMED themselves, for the way I was.
---Anytime I had a hard time with anything, their is a very good chance that this fact was involved, somewhere. I want to make this clear, here - I didn't blame anyone, they blamed themselves.
---My mother was very much the perfectionist-type. She had certain standards that she tried to live up to. Failing these herself, she would help others achieve these. This is NOT a good thing.
---With me, I noticed that we had some kind of ''monkeywrench,'' in our relationship. To her credit, she left me alone a lot, not wanting to make it any worse for me. And she truly, didn't know what to do about the situation, anyway. She was taking many of her cues, from what was happening at the time.
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---However, the perfectionist thing was there, and I did notice that my brother, Peter, was the recipient of this. While she wouldn't say anything to me, Peter was wrong in just about everything he did.
---I really believe that she thought she was doing the right thing, pointing out what she considered faults, on almost a continual basis, to him.
---Peter was almost 8 years old when I was born. I'm sure those were eight years of hearing how he was NOT quite, ''good enough,'' pretty much, daily.
---My mother, I think felt so inferior, herself, that being so-fault oriented, and clueless to the harm she was doing, thought that she was ''helping,'' Peter, every time she would correct or ''find fault,'' with his behavior. And then, ''letting him know about it.''
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---The sad thing about it all is that there are a lot of people doing this. It is a form of saving face. The person that you are trying to change, you work on improving. You should, actually, work on why YOU find him so hard to approve of. You should work on why YOU find him unacceptable.
---In the case of Peter and my mother, she was continually trying to perfect him, in hope that one of her comments would be heard and a change would take place, according to how she saw things. Since he reflected her, in someway, she would then benefit by him, ''acting right.'' But, this was all based on the way she ''thought'' things were supposed to be, anyway.
---All she really succeeded in doing was heaping her hang-ups and phobias, on him. Luckily, he was able to get out from some of it, but to this day, I'll bet he carries some internal scars.
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---I would add that you have to learn to accept YOURSELF, before you can REALLY, accept others. Otherwise, you may work on changing others, instead of working on yourself.
Look MA - I'm FLYING!!
Look Ma - I'm FLYING
(Video Below)
I Have Had It With This Nest.
I'm Leaving!
I'll, Probably, Be Back,
But, It Will Just Be To Visit
The House Is Different, Now
I'm Different
There Are Times We Agree
And, There Are Times We Don't
You Pushed Me Out, You Know
With All Of Your Bloody Help.
You Were Probably Doing Your Best
Now, Its Time To Do MY Best
The Years Have Gone By
And Blah, Blah, Blah.
Well I'm Back, Now. But, It's Just For Awhile,
I'm Here For That Visit, I Was Talking About
I'm Doing This And That,
And Such And Such.
I Still Make Time For My Stuff.
It Doesn't Sound Like Much
But, It Keeps Me Busy
I Don't Know Where The Time Goes
There Is One Thing I Want To Say
I Know It Has Been Said Before
But, Did You Notice
Something Different, About Me, This Time?
It'll Happen, Again, When I Leave This Place.
(PAUSE)
MA!! Are You Watching, While I Take Off?
(PAUSE)
LOOK MA - I'M FLYING.
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Video Link
(I am singing with Bobby Darling and Ed F. The Song is ''BIRDS,'' by Neil Young.)
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SELF ''DISCOVERY''
CONSIDER THIS...
SELF-DISCOVERY
---The importance of self-discovery cannot be stressed enough. One finds out who and what he is all about. You ''discover'' who you, yourself are. Doesn't that sound or seem important. You are ''going to'' and ''are'' spending a lot of time with you, wouldn't you at least like a ''clue?''
---I think that most people really feel there is nothing worthwhile inside. They were shortsheeted whenever whatever it is had been given out so,''What's the use and who cares anyway?''
---I really feel that people for the most part would rather settle, then to be ''disappointed'' with what might NOT be found if you found them out. They are afraid there is nothing inside, and they would rather not know. At least, they can put off being disillusioned.
---The importance of self-discovery cannot be stressed enough. One finds out who and what he is all about. You ''discover'' who you, yourself are. Doesn't that sound or seem important. You are ''going to'' and ''are'' spending a lot of time with you, wouldn't you at least like a ''clue?''
---I think that most people really feel there is nothing worthwhile inside. They were shortsheeted whenever whatever it is had been given out so,''What's the use and who cares anyway?''
---I really feel that people for the most part would rather settle, then to be ''disappointed'' with what might NOT be found if you found them out. They are afraid there is nothing inside, and they would rather not know. At least, they can put off being disillusioned.
---My Own CRISIS Of FAITH (1976)---
---I mentioned my own ''Crisis of Faith,'' in 1976. I had been a ''going alonger'' since I had been born and just accepted things to be ''as they had been told to me,'' and did not question much. The idea, if it made sense or not, was not even a concern. If it was said, and said often enough, who was I to question? It seemed to connect up enough so as to not be a problem. I just went along. Self-Discovery was not important to me, either.
---Then it didn't make as much sense. This God I had learned about had nothing to do with what I was experiencing. Going to Church was a component of what I was doing, but things were changing. I was changing. All of a sudden, it became important to know- ''Is there A God?''
---I had just accepted practically ''Everything,'' up until this point. Blind Faith is all well and good, but now I had to find out about these things. In October, on a Saturday night, 1976 - I Knew. God is LOVE. It is all about LOVE.
---This was an event, in my Life, that was undeniable. I knew and have known ever since. ''IT'' is ALL about LOVE. Things began to make sense. Everything I had known, began to fit. The pieces of the puzzle went into the places they were meant to go. The ''BEFORE'' and ''AFTER'' were now different. I knew this was correct. LOVE. I want to say here that it has NOT always been smooth sailing since that day, but I have always known [It Is ALL About LOVE] and known why [I have messed up]. More, Elsewhere. Be Well.
---Then it didn't make as much sense. This God I had learned about had nothing to do with what I was experiencing. Going to Church was a component of what I was doing, but things were changing. I was changing. All of a sudden, it became important to know- ''Is there A God?''
---I had just accepted practically ''Everything,'' up until this point. Blind Faith is all well and good, but now I had to find out about these things. In October, on a Saturday night, 1976 - I Knew. God is LOVE. It is all about LOVE.
---This was an event, in my Life, that was undeniable. I knew and have known ever since. ''IT'' is ALL about LOVE. Things began to make sense. Everything I had known, began to fit. The pieces of the puzzle went into the places they were meant to go. The ''BEFORE'' and ''AFTER'' were now different. I knew this was correct. LOVE. I want to say here that it has NOT always been smooth sailing since that day, but I have always known [It Is ALL About LOVE] and known why [I have messed up]. More, Elsewhere. Be Well.
Hole-in-One
THINKING BACK...
''A LUCKY Shot.''
---''The site was the 11th hole at Hillcrest Country Club. Paul used a nine iron on the shorty. Only 110 yards.'' That is part of the Newspaper Story that accompanied my hole-in-one. There was more, but not much. Getting my name in the paper was half the kick. It was nothing much more than a ''lucky'' shot and to show you, I got an 11 on the next hole and lost the ball. The Hole-in-one happened, July 16, 1967.
---The funny part was afterwards at the Proshop. An elderly man named ''Jack'' was working as clerk that day. I was 16 years old at the time and spent some time there as a caddy. I was not a fixture, but had been there enough to have a nodding acquaintance with some of the ''regulars,'' and thankfully it was witnessed by a ''regular,'' as this was NOT going to be believed from a ''bunch of kids.''
''A LUCKY Shot.''
---''The site was the 11th hole at Hillcrest Country Club. Paul used a nine iron on the shorty. Only 110 yards.'' That is part of the Newspaper Story that accompanied my hole-in-one. There was more, but not much. Getting my name in the paper was half the kick. It was nothing much more than a ''lucky'' shot and to show you, I got an 11 on the next hole and lost the ball. The Hole-in-one happened, July 16, 1967.
---The funny part was afterwards at the Proshop. An elderly man named ''Jack'' was working as clerk that day. I was 16 years old at the time and spent some time there as a caddy. I was not a fixture, but had been there enough to have a nodding acquaintance with some of the ''regulars,'' and thankfully it was witnessed by a ''regular,'' as this was NOT going to be believed from a ''bunch of kids.''
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---This Was VERY Funny.---
---After, we, along with the ''witness,'' convinced ''Jack'' that this actually happened, ''Jack'' started taking down the information. This is the funny part. Jack asked me if I had a handicap? To back-track a bit and if you didn't read the last ''INSIDER,'' I was born missing four fingers on my left-hand. [See pictures above.] I proceeded to tell ''Jack'' about my hand and how it really is not a ''handicap'' and that I had been born this way so I really didn't miss the four fingers. I think I was going into my Little League career to explain that being born a certain way is different than ''losing'' your fingers after having them, as one would have to re-adapt to the situation when ''Jack'' just looked at me and said,''I'll put down zero.''
---Of course, he meant ''golf handicap''. I went a whole 'nother way with it. ''Jack'' didn't see this one coming and I don't blame him. I was putting a different meaning on the word ''handicap,'' than what was meant.
---Of course, he meant ''golf handicap''. I went a whole 'nother way with it. ''Jack'' didn't see this one coming and I don't blame him. I was putting a different meaning on the word ''handicap,'' than what was meant.
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(A Very Robotic-Look In The Photo Above, Seems I May Have Been A Little ''Tightly,'' Wound.)
BEYOND ''Anger'' and ''Depression'': A Possibility
CONSIDER THIS...
''Lighten-up, If You Can''
---All of us seem to have an anger button, although on some it is much more obvious than on others, [not a real bragging point]. I hope you all know that Depression is just Anger Unexpressed, turned inward.
---When something angers us and we express it, we feel much better as long as we can seem to justify it. But, when in a situation that makes us angry and we begin our enraged festering, all the energy we create through our angry thoughts needs a place to go. It will find a spot usually focused below our normal focus, weighing us and bringing us down, causing sluggishness, slowness and depression. If we express our anger we are Ex-pressing. When we hold it in, we are De-pressing. When I say express it, of course, I mean responsibly, positively, productively and creatively. Not just an enraged tirade.
''Lighten-up, If You Can''
---All of us seem to have an anger button, although on some it is much more obvious than on others, [not a real bragging point]. I hope you all know that Depression is just Anger Unexpressed, turned inward.
---When something angers us and we express it, we feel much better as long as we can seem to justify it. But, when in a situation that makes us angry and we begin our enraged festering, all the energy we create through our angry thoughts needs a place to go. It will find a spot usually focused below our normal focus, weighing us and bringing us down, causing sluggishness, slowness and depression. If we express our anger we are Ex-pressing. When we hold it in, we are De-pressing. When I say express it, of course, I mean responsibly, positively, productively and creatively. Not just an enraged tirade.
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---Why Do We Get ANGRY?---
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---We get angry because we have an agenda, a plan, a desire that isn't expressing itself. We want life to be a certain way, and we ''feel'' someone or something is preventing it. If you live your life or Love with a certain agenda where you expect the outcome to be exactly the way you want it, you will always be setting yourself up for disappointment. Living and Loving with no expectations is very freeing and a far lighter load to carry, than an attitude or a need to control everything, no matter how we justify it.
---We get angry because we have an agenda, a plan, a desire that isn't expressing itself. We want life to be a certain way, and we ''feel'' someone or something is preventing it. If you live your life or Love with a certain agenda where you expect the outcome to be exactly the way you want it, you will always be setting yourself up for disappointment. Living and Loving with no expectations is very freeing and a far lighter load to carry, than an attitude or a need to control everything, no matter how we justify it.
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---What Do You SUGGEST?---
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---Let go, Live, Love, Enjoy- becoming addicted to nothing. Do not allow yourself to be victimized by your own opinions and attitudes, or those of others. If your applecart is easily upset, find out why and fix it.
---Remember: Never avoid the Real Truth for that will only bear discomfort, whether it be anger, depression or greater isolation. Be Well.
---Let go, Live, Love, Enjoy- becoming addicted to nothing. Do not allow yourself to be victimized by your own opinions and attitudes, or those of others. If your applecart is easily upset, find out why and fix it.
---Remember: Never avoid the Real Truth for that will only bear discomfort, whether it be anger, depression or greater isolation. Be Well.
''TIME'' and ''ASSUME''
CONSIDER THIS...
RELATIVITY OF TIME
---You probably have all experienced this at one time or another- it is how the same amount of time can appear different. For our purposes we will take a 4 hour period and how this can appear different.
---If we spend 4 hours doing something we like to do with someone we like to be with and someone with whom we feel comfortable, the time seems to fly by. We even say things like, ''Time flies,'' or, ''I wonder where the time went?''
---If we spend the same amount of time, 4 hours, doing something we hate to do, each second can seem like an eternity. The time drags on and on and we find ourselves looking at the clock wondering why it is moving so slowly. We can sometimes wonder if it is broken?
---We see through this that time is very relative. Relative to what we do and our relationship to it, whether we like what we do or not. If we are having a good time than time goes by quickly. If we are not having so good of a time, than time creeps by. It seems that doing things we enjoy doing is preferable. It is like the difference between ''Heaven'' and ''Hell.''
CONSIDER THIS...
ASSUME
---Some of us may have seen this when it ''aired'' on television originally. It was on a segment of the ''Odd Couple'' with Tony Randall and Jack Klugman. It seems the guys were in Court for some reason when Felix said this, ''Don't Assume anything, because when you assume something, you make an Ass of U and Me. How true this can be.
---We find ourselves doing this quite often. We think we know how something is going to turn out, even before we embark on the event. We somehow think our past performance governs what are going to do. We let our ''past'' control our ''future.'' We think we know in advance how things are going to be. We ASSUME things are going to turn out as we predict.
RELATIVITY OF TIME
---You probably have all experienced this at one time or another- it is how the same amount of time can appear different. For our purposes we will take a 4 hour period and how this can appear different.
---If we spend 4 hours doing something we like to do with someone we like to be with and someone with whom we feel comfortable, the time seems to fly by. We even say things like, ''Time flies,'' or, ''I wonder where the time went?''
---If we spend the same amount of time, 4 hours, doing something we hate to do, each second can seem like an eternity. The time drags on and on and we find ourselves looking at the clock wondering why it is moving so slowly. We can sometimes wonder if it is broken?
---We see through this that time is very relative. Relative to what we do and our relationship to it, whether we like what we do or not. If we are having a good time than time goes by quickly. If we are not having so good of a time, than time creeps by. It seems that doing things we enjoy doing is preferable. It is like the difference between ''Heaven'' and ''Hell.''
CONSIDER THIS...
ASSUME
---Some of us may have seen this when it ''aired'' on television originally. It was on a segment of the ''Odd Couple'' with Tony Randall and Jack Klugman. It seems the guys were in Court for some reason when Felix said this, ''Don't Assume anything, because when you assume something, you make an Ass of U and Me. How true this can be.
---We find ourselves doing this quite often. We think we know how something is going to turn out, even before we embark on the event. We somehow think our past performance governs what are going to do. We let our ''past'' control our ''future.'' We think we know in advance how things are going to be. We ASSUME things are going to turn out as we predict.
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
It is ALL ''INSIDE'' - a poem
CONSIDER THIS...
''IT'S INSIDE YOU''
A POEM
Now, That I'm Fifty-four,
I See That Door
That Was Open Before.
It's The Same Door
It Just May Look Different
But It Is The Same Door.
I May Be a Little Slower
As I Walk Through That Door
MY STANDARDS MAY BE HIGHER
MY STANDARDS MIGHT BE LOWER
But, I'm HAVING FUN.
And, I Think There's More.
So, Now, DON'T BE AFRAID
To Just WALK ON THROUGH.
On The Other Side Of That DOOR,
You Might Just Find - ''YOU!''
''IT'S INSIDE YOU''
A POEM
Now, That I'm Fifty-four,
I See That Door
That Was Open Before.
It's The Same Door
It Just May Look Different
But It Is The Same Door.
I May Be a Little Slower
As I Walk Through That Door
MY STANDARDS MAY BE HIGHER
MY STANDARDS MIGHT BE LOWER
But, I'm HAVING FUN.
And, I Think There's More.
So, Now, DON'T BE AFRAID
To Just WALK ON THROUGH.
On The Other Side Of That DOOR,
You Might Just Find - ''YOU!''
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Bobby Darling Song - Puts A Mark On My Serio-Comedic Lifestyle.
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